I am at the “just noticing” stage of my fear of success. One of the things that drew my attention was the language of success. The words you use to describe success, the attitude behind success or the results of success all have a familiar ring. There are certain qualities we tend to think of when we contemplate success, either our own or another’s. It is not just a goal has been met (though that is part of it), or money has been made (thought this is a common measure) or that it is recognized (again, this often feels a part of this process called success). Because I am such a word geek, the thing that I notice first, when allowing myself to notice success, my fears and what it might actually meant to me is the language of success.
The language of success…….
abundance, energy, diligence
consistant, persistant, consistant
ready, open, willing
learning, giving, trying again
gratitude, thankfulness, caring
listening, hearing, receiving
waiting, abiding, trusting
prosperity, treasure, gift
……sounds a lot like love in action.
It certainly doesn’t mean that sh** doesn’t happen……
failure, quirks, trials
again, again, again
disappointment, again, burnout
staffing issues, payroll worries, taxes
loss, bankruptcy, a flop
no, no, no, no, no
It just means you keep extending a quality of success (aka love) to each and every circumstance, thought, event and trend that is happening.
Oh.
Is this what puts me off? The seeming need/demand/corollary that I MUST extend a quality of success to everything? That I can’t whine, quit, feel sorry for myself???
No, wait. I can do all those things and still achieve success if I continue to choose to extend a quality of success (aka love) to my quitting, whining or sorry. Oh, I get it, I am not achieving success as much I am practicing success.
Maybe success isn’t what I thought it was? Go figure.
