Comments on: 4. Day 5: Full Disclosure https://www.twelvemonthselflove.com/4-day-5-full-disclosure/ Sat, 05 Jul 2014 22:35:33 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.9 By: Eva Lisle https://www.twelvemonthselflove.com/4-day-5-full-disclosure/#comment-429 Sat, 05 Jul 2014 22:35:33 +0000 http://www.twelvemonthselflove.com/?p=1290#comment-429 In reply to Stacey.

Thank you for sharing some of your challenges in letting go. I find such comfort in remembering that we are, each one, doing the best we think we can in any given moment. That those moments are filled with awkward pain and even silence is what leads us to seek the truth about ourselves and our own hearts. So glad you are joining in so beautifully in your sharing dear One. Love always, E xoxo

]]> By: Eva Lisle https://www.twelvemonthselflove.com/4-day-5-full-disclosure/#comment-428 Sat, 05 Jul 2014 22:32:50 +0000 http://www.twelvemonthselflove.com/?p=1290#comment-428 In reply to MaryAnn.

So very happy to hear from you dear MaryAnn! I am sending you BIG love and very glad of your joining in with us in this month of letting go of the fear of letting go;) xoxo

]]> By: MaryAnn https://www.twelvemonthselflove.com/4-day-5-full-disclosure/#comment-425 Sat, 05 Jul 2014 17:16:16 +0000 http://www.twelvemonthselflove.com/?p=1290#comment-425 Hello Darling Eva, I am just returning to your blogs and spent the past few minutes catching up on July 1-today. How timely the topic. Letting go is a theme around me right now too, so I love that your HS perspective resonates with me. Jill’s comments on a few of these posts are beautiful too and she feels like a friend I’ve known forever (of course we all have known each other haven’t we?). Thank you for sharing your process today. Will stay close to the posts this month as I’m finding such comfort here. Love’n’hugs to you my dear Eva!!

]]> By: Stacey https://www.twelvemonthselflove.com/4-day-5-full-disclosure/#comment-423 Sat, 05 Jul 2014 12:42:02 +0000 http://www.twelvemonthselflove.com/?p=1290#comment-423 It’s a process. Not everyone’s process is the same, but it is the right one for them. Thanks for sharing your process.

On letting go – SO HARD. I have had to let go of past hurts and past ‘assumptions’ of events especially as it pertains to my parents. They are not here to ask question or get answers and, quite frankly, not sure they would answer them anyway. I wonder what our relationship would be like now that I am on the way to the person I think I was meant to be instead of the person they either thought I was or that they encouraged me to be.

As you know, my dad could be delightful. He was also not easily pleased nor did he express anything personal about himself. He died and I knew almost nothing about him. I envied you and Evan and the relationship with your parents. Yes, I know that’s ridiculous. And I didn’t envy you at the time. I envied you when I realized I didn’t have that type of relationship.

My mom had been married before. Didn’t know that until I was 16 playing canasta with her cousins. My dad had been married before. Found that out at 18 when we were trying to get him SSDI after his stroke. My dad had two children from his previous marriage. Didn’t know that until I was 22. I found out my dad died when Beth Schuhman called me; my mother did not talk to me for a few days after. In every instance, these important events were given to me by others. Now that I’ve reconnected with my cousins on my mom’s side, I hear stories about them I’ve never heard and things I never knew.

I could either get bent or just enjoy learning about my family. I’ve chosen the latter. It’s not always easy and sometimes I have to struggle to get there, but letting go of the anger and bitterness was the first step.

As with all things, I try to ensure the Katheryne knows everything about me and her dad – even though he doesn’t really share anything with her – so that she will really know us.

Letting go is hard; it is work. And everyone’s journey is different.

Hugs and love my friend.

xo Stacey

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